meandering simply

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

electric windows

Tonight in the car I absentmindedly rolled up Rachael's window while her arm was hanging out . After my apologies, I chuckled at a long-ago memory.

Diane and Herbie had just gotten their first car with electric windows. Jeff was very young, I'm guessing about 4. Once he had his head hanging out the window when Herbie rolled the window up, trapping Jeff''s head. After a mild panic and Herbie of course untrapping Jeff's head, Jeff sat back and mused aloud, "That's what I don't like about these cars. You never know when the windows are gonna go up."

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a little rachael funny

In Arkansas Stephanie reminded me of a Rachael moment that I've not recorded. (And for the record this blog is all about capturing family memories.)

Rachael was about 3 and Hannah was 2. Gordon rebuked Hannah for something and Rachael got terribly defensive. After Rachael corrected Gordon for correcting Hannah, Gordon explained that teaching Hannah to do right was his job as a parent.

Rachael responded confidently, "Well you're not Jesus!"

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women according to a 7th grader

I enjoy Rachael and her friends' attempts to sound grown-up and seasoned in the ways of the world. This morning she said her friend Colin and a few others were talking about "women" and the complexities they bring to relationships and life. Colin quipped, "Women, you can't live with 'em but the laundry doesn't get done without 'em."

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Tuesday, October 30, 2007


Why do Baptist not believe in having sex standing up??? Because it may lead to dancing.

Perhaps you have to come from a background like mine to truly appreciate that joke. As a child I was taught that dancing was a HUGE sin. On prom nights, the Baptists put on alternate parties to keep the kids from dancing and sex. The two were ridiculously connected. Preachers preached, Sunday School teachers taught, parents lectured that dancing was wrong, really really wrong. Therefore dancing and sex were one and the same to my young mind. I've heard folks say they were married before they knew that dancing wasn't foreplay.

In Arkansas this past visit it came up how radical we were on this topic. Michael, my brother piped up with, "Imagine my surprise when I went to my first dance and didn't get sex."

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Monday, October 29, 2007


My last several days consisted of traveling. From Arkansas to North Carolina with my sister Stacie and from there I left with a new (newer) car that I brought to Edmonton. A total of 3100 miles. Arkansas was still green, just beginning to turn colors. Here are some snapshots of the country between North Carolina and home. It was a beautiful drive; very diverse and something new every day.

The mountains of Tennessee and Kentucky.

Chicago. I strongly recommend medicating oneself before driving through here.
Since I was traveling west, I got to watch the sun set every day on a different kind of terrain. It was beautiful each day.

Alberta and Saskatchewan Prairies. When I first moved to Canada I thought they were ugly and lonely looking. I've grown to love them.
Within 20 miles of crossing into Canada I drove into a light snow and 23 degrees F.
Looks colder than the other pictures, eh?
I went through Tennessee, Kentucky, Indiana, Illinois, Minnesota, Wisconsin, North Dakota, Saskatchewan, and Alberta. It was overall a nice experience.

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Sunday, October 28, 2007

I am lion. Hear me roar.

Stephanie and John Mark had a harvest party at their house last night. Roman was a vicious lion. None of these pictures capture the claw feet. Aren't they a photogenic family?

My wonderful son-in-law is a super daddy to this lil' lion.

A lovely mom and her cub.

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photos of Romie Boy

Even while I was there I could tell Roman was growing. He must have gained a few pounds and inches. He was much fuller when I left there than when I arrived. He wears stripes much better than his Beppie does.

I don't know what I'll do without this little smiley face greeting every morning.

3 generations of love. Roman, me, and Stephie Pooh. (I had on my chubby suit this day. It just wouldn't do to have men hitting on a grandma.)

Beppie and Roman

This boy loves his mommy so much.

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Christopher Michael

Christopher in his dorm at Ouachita Baptist University.

Roman, me, and Christopher

My Handsome (only) Son

Christopher and Me after his football game. Thanks for taking this picture Maria. It was great to see you.

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Friday, October 19, 2007


Ok this video is a little on the low class side of life, however I think it may give my northern readers a chuckle. It's amazing what kind of music will sell. The first couple times hearing this I was grossed right out, but now I smile at how "different" some country music is. Please chuckle with me. I'm hoping this rouses a howl out of Gordon and my girls.

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Thursday, October 18, 2007

for Gordon

I'd follow you (or stay with you) anywhere on earth.

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Wednesday, October 17, 2007

a Hannah note

I found another note, this one from sweet Hannah. She wrote: "Dear Mom, I bet your having a good time. And I bet romy boy looks so cute. Here's some things that I want: some chapter books, some Arcensa candy and a big kiss when you get home. Don't forget lipgloss. its time to go. Love ya'll. Bye Mom, SMOOCH, Sincerely Hannah"

Hannah has phoned me more than the others. I sure love hearing her sweet voice. She has lots of stories to tell when we talk. Speaking of stories, the first Sunday I was here, Hannah broke her arm. Yep, at church, doing back flips. She jokes that it's my fault because if I'd been there I wouldn't have let her do flips at church.

Some guy made this astute observation that makes me smile. He said he grew up in an era where everything was the kid's fault and his kids are growing up in an era where everything is the parent's fault. He said he couldn't win. Funny.

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2 lives

I'm having a great time with Stephanie and John Mark and of course Romie Boy. Steph, JM and I have laughed lots. Romie Boy is so cute, cuddly, and sweeter than honey. He has definitely charmed this grandma. I love him so much.

Stephanie is a woman, a real woman. Wife, mother, nurse, cook, cleaner,... I'm so thankful that she is able to be home with Roman most of the time. She only works a couple nights a week and Roman is with John Mark during those times. I'm proud of them for their priorities.

I went to Christopher's last weekend. I enjoyed him enormously. I went to his football game and mourned that I couldn't go to more. I got a tour of his dorm room and a quick tour of the campus. It was a long drive there, but so very worth it.

My time in Arkansas is coming to an end soon. Stacie will be here in a couple days. I can't wait to see her. All the family is getting together at Diane's then. I'll see nearly everyone. We'll laugh our heads off, no doubt.

I miss my hubby and girls up in Canada. How I wish we all lived closer. Last night I cried thinking about leaving here. How can I leave? How can I not? Life can be so hard. I am tired to death of living two lives, having two families. I want us all together. Will God make a way?

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Saturday, October 6, 2007

Romie Boy and his Daddy

He's so cute.

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2 of Roman's fans

Uncle Chris and Roman
Beppie has the special touch.

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a note from Deborah

I'm missing my Canada family lots. I've talked to the girls everyday since I got here. It's my first time to be away like this since they've been so adept on the telephone. Now they call a couple times a day. Deborah told me today that she's counting the days till I come home. I'm a very torn woman when it comes to my children. How I wish they all lived within a few miles of each other. I always feel so divided. I miss them lots but am thoroughly enjoying Stephanie, John Mark, little Romie Boy, and Christopher. Oh it's great to spend time with them.

I have found a couple notes from Hannah and Deborah. I read them a few times a day. It keeps me feeling "in touch" with them.

My note from Deborah reads:

"There one's was a girl who's mom went to arcensal. she was very sad. she missed her very much. O how special it was to have a great mom like her own so she gave her mom the biggest gift as possible love and a little note. her mom also loved her so. And she prayed and prayed for her dotter. and then she came home and they kissed and hugged. The end.

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stephanie's on a saturday

I'm having a great time in Fayetteville. Christopher is with us now and we are laughing lots and watching lots of football. The guys are on their third football game today. I didn't know three games a day was something people did. But these men are definitely hooked. We had lunch with my sister Diane yesterday. When I mentioned the football enthusiasts to her she said, "it's like a cult up here."

A while ago the kids were talking about a publicized incident that happened on a school bus on the way home from a soccer game. Stephanie and I got pretty fired up about it and JM and Chris seemed to think little of it. Stephanie ranted, "You guys don't know what all goes on on a school bus."

Christopher, who's ridden lots of school buses to and from football games, calmly said, "Stephanie I know exactly what goes on on a bus. I've actually ridden 'em, unlike you."

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Thursday, October 4, 2007

"take me out to the ballgame"

John Mark is really into sports. I was surprised to learn that Stephanie doesn't particularly like going to baseball and football games. She told me what it's like to go to the games, walking through mud and dirt. I kind of missed the point and asked what it is about the games that she doesn't like. Without hesitating she said, "I can't wear cute shoes."

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special breasts

Stephanie is a nursing mom and has learned like all the other moms who've nursed their babies that breast feeding temporarily does things to one's anatomy that one may not like.

She told me about someone talking about Angelina Jolie's breast. Stephanie responded, "I have breasts like that too except my nipples are the size of dinner plates.

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Love at first sight

No one can possibly believe how precious Roman is. He is so very very precious. He doesn't mind his Beppie holding him -- so long as he can still see his mommy. Boy oh boy, does he ever love her. All she has to do is look at him and he kickes excitedly and smiles.

Stephanie made delicious chicken enchiladas and nachos tonight. The south will be good for me, at least my tastebuds.

After supper John Mark held Roman and he fell asleep and slept so contentely in his daddy's arms. It was beautiful. I took a picture but don't know how to get it from someone else's computer. You'll just have to trust me, it was beautiful.

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a sweet tuck-in

On Monday I said goodbye to the girls as I tucked them into bed. I knew I'd say it again at 4 in the morning but was afraid they wouldn't remember it. When I got them all tucked in, I did some last minute packing. Deborah got up several times to ask me to go to bed so she could tuck me in. I did.

I got in bed and she came in and pulled the covers up around my neck. Then she leaned on me and prayed for my safety on the trip, that I'd fall asleep quickly so I could wake more easily, that I'd have a wonderful time getting to know Romie Boy. Then she kissed me and said goodbye again. Then she turned off the lights and went to bed.

What a sweetie!

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Monday, October 1, 2007

Almost time to go south

I leave for my big trip south tomorrow morning at 4:00 am. While the world sleeps, I'll be standing in a customs line wondering if they'll be nice to me or strip search me. Just joking, I've never been stripped searched - for if that ever happened, I'd never go any where ever again.

Tonight Gordon was collecting all my travel insurance papers. As he carried them to me he said, "now this insurance doesn't cover anything related to psychiatric conditions, so just keep your mouth shut about all those problems."

Deborah just came out of her bedroom saying, "Mom, how do you spell 'yall'?" Evidently she's making something for a southern relative and trying to speak their language. My kids are struggling bilinguals.

Perhaps by the time anyone reads this I will have laid my eyes on my grandson Roman for the first time. If you read this sooner than that, please pray for me tomorrow. The day will be dreadfully long. Edmonton to Toronto to Dallas to Northern Arkansas. I'm too old to enjoy that kind of day.

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